When you should see a Marriage Counselor

When is it time to see a Marriage Counselor?

I had listed 4 couples' stories which are true.

Couple No. 1 had been together for 10 over years now and they tend to deal with their problems differently. Whenever they have a tiff, the wife would just go to the mall or play bridge with her friends and the husband would either watch TV or would take the car and just drive away for a few hours. Later in the day, they would just go on as if nothing ever happen. Not once in their married years had they ever sat down to have a 'dialogue' about their relationship."

Couple No. 2 had been together for close to 5 years now. The husband is a financial trader and the wife is a corporate lawyer. Due to the nature of his job, the husband frequently travels and whenever he is at home, his wife is busy handling/ researching for a court case. Shocking fact, they had not made love for close to 3.5 years now. (Remember, they were married close to 4 years now)

Couple No. 3 had been together for close to 7 years now. The husband has his own business fixing computers and the wife does sales. They think that a little harmless flirting is ok and would do no harm so long as they don't sleep around. He flirts with his female customers so as to gain their loyalty, she flirts with her clients to strike deals. All were fine and they carried on with their "Harmless Flirting" till one day, he saw her at a club with her clients. She was sitting so close to one of her clients that any closer she will be on his lap (He still thinks that she was sitting on his lap which she denies). They talked things through and found out that they did not like each other flirting at all. They just did not want to tell each other so as to avoid having a tiff

Couple no. 4 had been together for close to 8-9 years now (Sorry, could not remember)
The wife had an affair years back and deeply regreted her actions and husband forgave her and they are still together. Both love each other deeply. However, ever since her affair, the husband took up smoking and drinking as a habit. His attitude changed towards her and demands to know where she is at all times and this has been happening for 2 years until she could not take it anymore.

Needless to say, each couple is slowly but surely managing their issues with each other through a counselor.

There are times when you can't understand teh problems you are encoutering, it is always good to seek professional help.

I would recommend reading "1000 Questions For Couples" (Click on the link)All of these questions will help you to really know the thoughts, feelings and desires of the one you are with. After going through these questions, you will really know the things your sweetheart is passionate about. You will also discover what irritates them.